We’re your best friend and we know you better than you know yourself. You have to figure out exactly what’s going to happen when the proverbial cat is out of the bag— your best friend is another female. Explain to your new girlfriend how you know your best friend, where you met, how long you’ve been friends. Like this, “I have a dog, I live in an apartment in Queens, I work at a bakery, I have a son, and my best friend is a girl.” Yeah, we know that seems weird, and it’s probably going to be hard, but if you want to continue your friendship your new relationship this is absolutely vital.When spending so much time with another person and sharing intimate secrets, personal jokes, and a special bond, it’s easy to confuse friendly gestures with feelings of love and attraction. Sometimes, people become friends with another person with secret hopes of turning the friendship into a relationship... If so, then you need to consider your current friendship and whether or not it’s worth risking for the chance at a relationship, especially if your friend is already in a happy relationship.Relationships can and do develop from friendships, but before you dive in and attempt to take your friendship to the next stage, you should consider the possible consequences! Stay Best Friends Forever If you decide on this route, know that it may become increasingly difficult to see your friend with his/her partner.Jake (name changed to protect the heartbroken) was one of my first friends in college—a tall, charming boy-down-the-hall, with a floppy haircut and a definite eye-twinkle. You know each other better than anyone—this includes the good your partner. Jake, the person I would normally discuss this confusing situation with, was now invested in situation.We had a love-like relationship that volleyed, and I’m not really sure who took the first swing. We went to dinners, held hands, and watched movies. Maybe I was naïve; maybe I was taking advantage, clinging to a familiar presence who always felt like home.We graduated, moved away to different cities, and desperately tried to keep our friendship afloat.
There was a new girl in the picture, and she did know is that a day into my visit, I was treated like a burden. Emails, texts, calls—I am a little embarrassed to admit how long it took me to understand, he wasn’t ever going to respond. But losing your boyfriend your best friend is a whole different level of heartache. A few weeks after my engagement, flush with celebrations and congratulatory Facebook posts, he wished me a happy birthday. To my surprise he answered, and listened as I called him out on being a terrible friend, on ignoring me, on treating be like a bad breakup.
If your friend is happy, then all you can do is stand back and wish them the best.
However, others would recommend being honest about your feelings. Do you really want to live the rest of your life wondering “What if...”? Assess your feelings While you might think that you are in love with your best friend, consider the possibility that you could just have a crush on them.
Why dating your best friend may be your best bet to finding true love.
There's nothing quite like feeling a spark of attraction between you and someone you just met, but lately, we've been wondering whether it's better to date a friend, or at least somebody we've known longer than just a couple of weeks.